I like what I heard on Be Here Now Network the other day from Jack Kornfield: if you haven't cried without control, sat with your loneliness, and the pain of your existence, you're not meditating properly.
There's a narrative in spirituality that everything is love and light, and people just go floating around the world in ease.
Spirituality is about accepting our human form; it took me so long to realise that. With all the shadows.
I'm right in the middle of accepting all of those ways.